Coming from a total jurisprudence angle- The definition of what’s right and wrong, equality among gender, caste and colour if taught correctly at a young age becomes a defining moment.
If done correctly, we wouldn’t be living in a society where, A sexually active man might be a "player" or "stud" - terms carrying notes of admiration - while a sexually active woman becomes a "slut" or "whore."
The bit about Buddha heart and demon hand is particularly resonant with me, particularly the idea that the demon hand expressions are unconscious.
It strikes me that this is the case for most men, at least in a structured society with law and order. I think it is difficult to imagine how one would behave in the “Heart of Darkness” disconnected from civilization, its social pressures and institutions of justice. But it also strikes me that even within structured society, many men would consciously violate consent knowing it causes harm so long as they were sure they would get away with it….and many do. Sexual predators often prey on the weak rather than on the most sexually fit/attractive.
I'm really glad you enjoyed it! Sadly there will always be variation in the abilty to empathize among the human population.. but our societal imunsystem against harms will surely get better over time. So I choose to have hope in the future 😊
I love both these pieces yet am mostly academically unequipped to respond to it outside of direct experience. Suffice it to say, though, that I would like to pick deeper into this one little dichotomy and tease out some things:
"Similarly, the same sexual desire can manifest as either loving union or violent violation depending on the consciousness directing it."
Not a flaw in the analysis--just a thorn if I unfairly uncontextualize it. The language here is important, I think, not because I want to cherry pick your word choice--but because I believe the magic of courtship and passion (and sussing them from friendship) live at the precise and angstroms-thin line of surrender and transgression.
To put my balls on the table, I would make this claim:
Back when I made myself busy believing I was insignificant, unwanted, weak, uncharming, powerless, spiteful of whatever I believed the 'cultural' gestalt of masculinity was, and busy insisting to myself that even approaching a member of the opposite sex was a bad idea:
I was a DANGER to women, despite overtly avoiding them.
When I became confident in my body, playful, powerful, strong, charismatic(lol, never say this about yourself in real life, I even blushed a little typing it), and comfortable with my own appetites:
In 'just-right' social assertion, I became a LOCUS of comfort.
Dangerous and unpopular broad idea here being that "functioning properly as a man has a tendency to set women--and people in general--at ease"
What that proper function is--well, that's subject to another long form and more.
I love both of these entries, and they make me want to compose some straightforward things about the proper and right use of "boy-ness". Embracing masculinity has been my saving grace; shaping its discovery and embrace for the playful, adventurous future is important to shaping the kind of men you want to see in the world.
Thanks so much for your thoughtful comment! I really appreciate you sharing your perspective. It definitely adds valuable nuance to the dichotomy I presented between sexual desire manifesting as loving union vs. violent violation.
You make an excellent point about how a man's inner state and self-perception plays a huge role in how he shows up in intimate interactions. There's real truth to the idea that a man at ease with himself can create a sense of comfort and safety for others.
At the same time, I wonder if the key factor is less about embracing masculinity per se, and more about feeling comfortable in one's own skin, regardless of gender. The positive traits you describe that made you a "locus of comfort" rather than a "danger" - being confident in your body, playful, powerful, strong, charismatic - aren't inherently masculine qualities. Women can embody them too.
So while I completely agree that men embracing a healthy, ethical version of their own gender identity is important, I suspect the real transformation comes from self-acceptance more broadly. It's less about performing an idealized masculinity and more about channeling your authentic personality and values in a way that uplifts both you and those around you.
Thanks again for engaging so meaningfully with this piece! Conversations like this are exactly what I was hoping to spark.
"At the same time, I wonder if the key factor is less about embracing masculinity per se, and more about feeling comfortable in one's own skin, regardless of gender."
Totally agree! For me, that was simply the part which was missing a healthy, constructive and weaving/integrated example by which to express. I was raised by otter energy and In the way that the power and possible responsible use of the archetype were missing in my life to that point, I guess I don't so much mean that everyone needs an extra dose of YANG but that untying this knot shouldn't be overlooked in men engaging the question: 'how do I responsibly express these assertive parts of myself in a sensitive way that remains true to my voice?'
In a generation of men who will be increasingly seeking purpose at a time where labor-as-career no longer holds the power of façade it once did over our sense of identity and value, other expressive social outlets are going to become critical. Labor-as-expression, as construction, as collaboration, and as play (soft and hard) is our generative force in action; it's the way we express life. That integration, I think, is part of how we make playful, fiery, competitive energy something that satisfies more than a single ego or a particular embodiment.
I am really glad you expressed the need for sexuality to be focused and channeled, I agree that setting up a dichotomous relationship with sex is a fundamentally fruitless enterprise. This is expressed when people warn of a binge purge cycle. There is a context to enjoy birthday cake for instance, or to drinking larger quantities of alcohol, that make it life giving and joyful, or the source of disease and death.
I believe there is a positive narrative that needs to be built, and I think was built quite well though perhaps imperfectly by the emergence of Chivalry.
I am coming from a very traditionalist and right wing perspective to be transparent, but I sympathize with people who struggle with feeling crushed by the modern world’s views on sexuality.
One thing that did bother me throughout is the anthropological view of the evolution of sexuality. I don’t find this kind of analysis particularly helpful in the end, while it can provide some insight. It seems to me the tendency is to view things like “here’s the brute biological reality that humanity is evolving out of to this better idealistic state.” And to me I think to split the “Real” and “Ideal” causes a lot of problems when trying to discover the meaning of sexuality and how it should be expressed for total human flourishing.
A lot of millennials can probably sympathize with this in terms of parenting, we can have a narrative of looking at ourselves as being sort of at the end of family traumas and then trying to “break the cycle” by observing the past cycles in reaction to what we thought was bad.
But there are a lot of problems with taking this approach, because not only are we not able to truly get at the historical realities as our ancestors experienced them in a real way, we are also limited by our own prejudices in our judgement of their methods and what it was they were aiming for.
While our place in history gives us a context for how go about things more specifically, I think we should look at things as they are, what is the deepest meaning that we can draw from male and female, how the two fit together dynamically, and how this works biologically to be fundamentally ordered to creating a new human, that needs to be cared for and formed to also become a full human.
In all the debates over (male) sexual violence in our societies we seldom recognise the powerful (almost unstoppable) force of biology at the root of it all. There is an unwillingness (even blindness) to address it because it testifies to our innate 'animal' nature that millenia of cultural and civilisational evolution have not been able to change in any meaningful way - a very unsettling truth for us to accept.
At the risk of being misunderstood I personally think that the only way to achieve a lasting peaceful (sexually) non violent society is not through more education or consciousness raising but through some kind of genetic manipulation or bodily redesign, because thats where the problem truly lies. The mind can only do so much to stem it's force or alter it's course.
That's exactly the motivation of why I wrote the piece! Completely agree that we to often ignore our evolutionary foundation.
Genetic manipulation might be necessary but I do also think that long before humanity would feel comfortable with such a thing, we can do a lot of good by creating a culture that is acknowledging our nature and teaches us healthy coping strategies.
Plus natural selection will also slowly reduce violence once it looses it's evolutionary advantage 🤗
This was a very thorough, very relevant, thoughtful piece. I enjoyed reading about something that has been a huge moral struggle for me for my entire life.
I was born in a female body that never felt like home. I have been involved with both men and women and some in between. I have gone through the judgment and ridicule from publicly living my truth beginning in my twenties. I’m not upset with that now, although I admit that it used to take up great space in my thought process.
People inherently disagree with what they can’t grasp a clear understanding of that doesn’t somehow tug at other parts of their life experience’s program. We are all so diverse in walking through contradiction of pieces we’ve yet to be properly, lovingly introduced to.
I admit I haven’t landed in a sweet spot that feels comfortable like home because I’m still accepting the parts of myself that I exiled to fit into societal norms with regard to gender, sexuality, and religious and political performance. However through connecting with people that have interesting perspectives my mind is opening up tremendously freeing me from this individual and collective prisons I inadvertently confined myself to
I look for paths based on education: not just about the moral and empathetic value of avoiding the non-consent path, but also about avoiding the frustration that often takes men there. Young men need to learn the why, in terms of the rewards achievable through fulfilling, mutual relations, but also the how, in terms of ways to find such relations.
There is a lot to improve in new generations. Its important to not leave a new generation of young men as a problem to be ashamed of but as part of the solution.
And I completely agree that this is also accomplished by offering them a hand how to navigate those new ways for mutual benefit😊
Just finished this and my god you’ve absolutely blown my mind. My current therapy journey is focusing on the sexual shame I carry (little about me: SA during childhood which taught me I’m an object to used by others which resulted later in life as a thought process of “if they want to use me, I’ll use them too” -prostitution).
I’m trying to heal both areas of my life and I’ve found it easier to heal the childhood trauma but not so much the prostitution trauma.
I’m so glad I found this post on the same day that I posted my own section of my personal experiences.
One part I wrote that has really stuck out to me is “the moment I was conceived, was I condemned?”.
Thank you for sharing this (sorry for the trauma dump) and I’m looking forward to reading part two. 🙏🏻
Greetings Mystic. Important subject your addressing. Can you imagine that there is something completely missing, I mean utterly absent, from human understanding of sexuality? Well, there is. Hidden since a long, long time ago. I stumbled upon it after about 40 days in the silence of the desert and it changed the trajectory of my existence. If I told you it would flip the world and your understanding of it on its head like it has for the handful of people I’ve related it to. Ultimately though, this understanding, like all Truth ultimately does, will burn through its cover. This one though, will end the world as we know it.
I'm getting a lot of analysis of sex in my Substack feed and I am loving it!!! I spoke about these very same topics on my own platform a few times and I'm so glad to see the message in other people's works. The very irony of it all is that everything that male patriarchy holds dear (organized family structures, private property, etc) wouldn't exist if male sexuality was allowed to exist in full force. Men are the biggest threat to male structural power because despite what patriarchy teaches, men are not designed to protect and provide which is why they need so much external pressure to do what women do without much incentive. And it's what ancient matriarchies understood which is also why they did not base the legitimacy of the child on whether or not they're biological father stuck around to raise them. We're seeing this play out right now. As women obtain more freedom and are less dependent on men for survival and outpace them, men feel threatened and less motivated/incentivized to do what society tells them they need to be doing (protecting and providing) and rates where women are either the breadwinner or single mothers go up to accompany it.
Man, don't bring the modern school dress code into this. I know teens like to rant about it online, but it's mainly for practice wearing office-appropriate outfits.
There is a fine line between office-appropriate outfits and actual policing of expression. 😊
I agree that there has to be a line somewhere. But there are definitely also cases where its just an older generations preferences of decency pressed onto a new one.
Alex, I found this article fascinating, and I am grateful that you took the time to craft it for us. I am curious about how you believe the practice of masturbation fits into the ideas that you describe. This is the first article of yours that I have read, so it's possible that you have addressed this previously or plan to do so in the future. If not, I would love for you to do so! 😊
Thanks for the question 😊 It touches on several key themes from the article - particularly the relationship between biological drives and conscious direction of sexual energy.
Masturbation represents a perfect example of how sexual energy can be channeled consciously rather than suppressively. Just as the article discusses the "Buddha Heart, Demon Hand" framework, self-pleasure can be approached either as mindless consumption or as intentional self-knowledge and release. When treated with awareness rather than shame, it becomes one of many tools for understanding and directing our sexual nature rather than being controlled by it.
This ties directly into the article's broader point about integration versus denial. Historical attempts to suppress masturbation through moral condemnation or pseudo-scientific warnings reflect the same flawed thinking that tried to control sexuality through external rules rather than internal wisdom. A more nuanced understanding recognizes that, like any expression of sexual energy, masturbation's impact depends largely on the consciousness bringing it into being.
I appreciate you raising this topic, as it's one that deserves to be discussed openly and intelligently rather than being relegated to either crude jokes or moral panic. It's exactly these kinds of honest conversations that help us develop healthier relationships with our sexual nature.
There is still a lot to explore here, so definitely thank you for putting my mind to it :)
Yes, that's exactly what I was thinking of when you referenced the conscious direction of sexual energy. In my own life as an unpartnered woman of 70, I find self-pleasure to be very liberating, and I experience it as both a kindness to myself and a sweet gift from God. Thank you for your thoughtful reply!
Wow! This is the best treatment of the difficult and (understandably) unpopular topic of male sexuality I have read in recent times. Thank you for bringing to consciousness the yin and yang of this topic.
I just want you to know that I was reading this aloud to my mother and she kept making comments like “exactly!” and “excellently put” 😁
As always, an AMAZING breakdown!
Can’t wait to read the rest 🫶🏻
Your choice to address my comment instead of commenting on the essay itself speaks volumes.
Coming from a total jurisprudence angle- The definition of what’s right and wrong, equality among gender, caste and colour if taught correctly at a young age becomes a defining moment.
If done correctly, we wouldn’t be living in a society where, A sexually active man might be a "player" or "stud" - terms carrying notes of admiration - while a sexually active woman becomes a "slut" or "whore."
So insightful! Thank you for posting this.
The bit about Buddha heart and demon hand is particularly resonant with me, particularly the idea that the demon hand expressions are unconscious.
It strikes me that this is the case for most men, at least in a structured society with law and order. I think it is difficult to imagine how one would behave in the “Heart of Darkness” disconnected from civilization, its social pressures and institutions of justice. But it also strikes me that even within structured society, many men would consciously violate consent knowing it causes harm so long as they were sure they would get away with it….and many do. Sexual predators often prey on the weak rather than on the most sexually fit/attractive.
I'm really glad you enjoyed it! Sadly there will always be variation in the abilty to empathize among the human population.. but our societal imunsystem against harms will surely get better over time. So I choose to have hope in the future 😊
I love both these pieces yet am mostly academically unequipped to respond to it outside of direct experience. Suffice it to say, though, that I would like to pick deeper into this one little dichotomy and tease out some things:
"Similarly, the same sexual desire can manifest as either loving union or violent violation depending on the consciousness directing it."
Not a flaw in the analysis--just a thorn if I unfairly uncontextualize it. The language here is important, I think, not because I want to cherry pick your word choice--but because I believe the magic of courtship and passion (and sussing them from friendship) live at the precise and angstroms-thin line of surrender and transgression.
To put my balls on the table, I would make this claim:
Back when I made myself busy believing I was insignificant, unwanted, weak, uncharming, powerless, spiteful of whatever I believed the 'cultural' gestalt of masculinity was, and busy insisting to myself that even approaching a member of the opposite sex was a bad idea:
I was a DANGER to women, despite overtly avoiding them.
When I became confident in my body, playful, powerful, strong, charismatic(lol, never say this about yourself in real life, I even blushed a little typing it), and comfortable with my own appetites:
In 'just-right' social assertion, I became a LOCUS of comfort.
Dangerous and unpopular broad idea here being that "functioning properly as a man has a tendency to set women--and people in general--at ease"
What that proper function is--well, that's subject to another long form and more.
I love both of these entries, and they make me want to compose some straightforward things about the proper and right use of "boy-ness". Embracing masculinity has been my saving grace; shaping its discovery and embrace for the playful, adventurous future is important to shaping the kind of men you want to see in the world.
Thanks so much for your thoughtful comment! I really appreciate you sharing your perspective. It definitely adds valuable nuance to the dichotomy I presented between sexual desire manifesting as loving union vs. violent violation.
You make an excellent point about how a man's inner state and self-perception plays a huge role in how he shows up in intimate interactions. There's real truth to the idea that a man at ease with himself can create a sense of comfort and safety for others.
At the same time, I wonder if the key factor is less about embracing masculinity per se, and more about feeling comfortable in one's own skin, regardless of gender. The positive traits you describe that made you a "locus of comfort" rather than a "danger" - being confident in your body, playful, powerful, strong, charismatic - aren't inherently masculine qualities. Women can embody them too.
So while I completely agree that men embracing a healthy, ethical version of their own gender identity is important, I suspect the real transformation comes from self-acceptance more broadly. It's less about performing an idealized masculinity and more about channeling your authentic personality and values in a way that uplifts both you and those around you.
Thanks again for engaging so meaningfully with this piece! Conversations like this are exactly what I was hoping to spark.
All the best,
Alex 😊
"At the same time, I wonder if the key factor is less about embracing masculinity per se, and more about feeling comfortable in one's own skin, regardless of gender."
Totally agree! For me, that was simply the part which was missing a healthy, constructive and weaving/integrated example by which to express. I was raised by otter energy and In the way that the power and possible responsible use of the archetype were missing in my life to that point, I guess I don't so much mean that everyone needs an extra dose of YANG but that untying this knot shouldn't be overlooked in men engaging the question: 'how do I responsibly express these assertive parts of myself in a sensitive way that remains true to my voice?'
In a generation of men who will be increasingly seeking purpose at a time where labor-as-career no longer holds the power of façade it once did over our sense of identity and value, other expressive social outlets are going to become critical. Labor-as-expression, as construction, as collaboration, and as play (soft and hard) is our generative force in action; it's the way we express life. That integration, I think, is part of how we make playful, fiery, competitive energy something that satisfies more than a single ego or a particular embodiment.
I am really glad you expressed the need for sexuality to be focused and channeled, I agree that setting up a dichotomous relationship with sex is a fundamentally fruitless enterprise. This is expressed when people warn of a binge purge cycle. There is a context to enjoy birthday cake for instance, or to drinking larger quantities of alcohol, that make it life giving and joyful, or the source of disease and death.
I believe there is a positive narrative that needs to be built, and I think was built quite well though perhaps imperfectly by the emergence of Chivalry.
I am coming from a very traditionalist and right wing perspective to be transparent, but I sympathize with people who struggle with feeling crushed by the modern world’s views on sexuality.
One thing that did bother me throughout is the anthropological view of the evolution of sexuality. I don’t find this kind of analysis particularly helpful in the end, while it can provide some insight. It seems to me the tendency is to view things like “here’s the brute biological reality that humanity is evolving out of to this better idealistic state.” And to me I think to split the “Real” and “Ideal” causes a lot of problems when trying to discover the meaning of sexuality and how it should be expressed for total human flourishing.
A lot of millennials can probably sympathize with this in terms of parenting, we can have a narrative of looking at ourselves as being sort of at the end of family traumas and then trying to “break the cycle” by observing the past cycles in reaction to what we thought was bad.
But there are a lot of problems with taking this approach, because not only are we not able to truly get at the historical realities as our ancestors experienced them in a real way, we are also limited by our own prejudices in our judgement of their methods and what it was they were aiming for.
While our place in history gives us a context for how go about things more specifically, I think we should look at things as they are, what is the deepest meaning that we can draw from male and female, how the two fit together dynamically, and how this works biologically to be fundamentally ordered to creating a new human, that needs to be cared for and formed to also become a full human.
Wonderful analysis and
deeply thought provoking.
In all the debates over (male) sexual violence in our societies we seldom recognise the powerful (almost unstoppable) force of biology at the root of it all. There is an unwillingness (even blindness) to address it because it testifies to our innate 'animal' nature that millenia of cultural and civilisational evolution have not been able to change in any meaningful way - a very unsettling truth for us to accept.
At the risk of being misunderstood I personally think that the only way to achieve a lasting peaceful (sexually) non violent society is not through more education or consciousness raising but through some kind of genetic manipulation or bodily redesign, because thats where the problem truly lies. The mind can only do so much to stem it's force or alter it's course.
That's exactly the motivation of why I wrote the piece! Completely agree that we to often ignore our evolutionary foundation.
Genetic manipulation might be necessary but I do also think that long before humanity would feel comfortable with such a thing, we can do a lot of good by creating a culture that is acknowledging our nature and teaches us healthy coping strategies.
Plus natural selection will also slowly reduce violence once it looses it's evolutionary advantage 🤗
I agree. Team transhumanism.
This was a very thorough, very relevant, thoughtful piece. I enjoyed reading about something that has been a huge moral struggle for me for my entire life.
I was born in a female body that never felt like home. I have been involved with both men and women and some in between. I have gone through the judgment and ridicule from publicly living my truth beginning in my twenties. I’m not upset with that now, although I admit that it used to take up great space in my thought process.
People inherently disagree with what they can’t grasp a clear understanding of that doesn’t somehow tug at other parts of their life experience’s program. We are all so diverse in walking through contradiction of pieces we’ve yet to be properly, lovingly introduced to.
I admit I haven’t landed in a sweet spot that feels comfortable like home because I’m still accepting the parts of myself that I exiled to fit into societal norms with regard to gender, sexuality, and religious and political performance. However through connecting with people that have interesting perspectives my mind is opening up tremendously freeing me from this individual and collective prisons I inadvertently confined myself to
I look for paths based on education: not just about the moral and empathetic value of avoiding the non-consent path, but also about avoiding the frustration that often takes men there. Young men need to learn the why, in terms of the rewards achievable through fulfilling, mutual relations, but also the how, in terms of ways to find such relations.
There is a lot to improve in new generations. Its important to not leave a new generation of young men as a problem to be ashamed of but as part of the solution.
And I completely agree that this is also accomplished by offering them a hand how to navigate those new ways for mutual benefit😊
Just finished this and my god you’ve absolutely blown my mind. My current therapy journey is focusing on the sexual shame I carry (little about me: SA during childhood which taught me I’m an object to used by others which resulted later in life as a thought process of “if they want to use me, I’ll use them too” -prostitution).
I’m trying to heal both areas of my life and I’ve found it easier to heal the childhood trauma but not so much the prostitution trauma.
I’m so glad I found this post on the same day that I posted my own section of my personal experiences.
One part I wrote that has really stuck out to me is “the moment I was conceived, was I condemned?”.
Thank you for sharing this (sorry for the trauma dump) and I’m looking forward to reading part two. 🙏🏻
I'm so glad you find value in my work 😊
The second part is paywalled.
But let me know if you want a free month so you can read it!
Greetings Mystic. Important subject your addressing. Can you imagine that there is something completely missing, I mean utterly absent, from human understanding of sexuality? Well, there is. Hidden since a long, long time ago. I stumbled upon it after about 40 days in the silence of the desert and it changed the trajectory of my existence. If I told you it would flip the world and your understanding of it on its head like it has for the handful of people I’ve related it to. Ultimately though, this understanding, like all Truth ultimately does, will burn through its cover. This one though, will end the world as we know it.
The word discipline comes to mind while reading. The broad definition, no pun intended. So well said...Thank U🙏🏽
Super interesting! I really liked how you compared different cultural views on sexuality. It's about understanding it, not just labeling it.
I'm getting a lot of analysis of sex in my Substack feed and I am loving it!!! I spoke about these very same topics on my own platform a few times and I'm so glad to see the message in other people's works. The very irony of it all is that everything that male patriarchy holds dear (organized family structures, private property, etc) wouldn't exist if male sexuality was allowed to exist in full force. Men are the biggest threat to male structural power because despite what patriarchy teaches, men are not designed to protect and provide which is why they need so much external pressure to do what women do without much incentive. And it's what ancient matriarchies understood which is also why they did not base the legitimacy of the child on whether or not they're biological father stuck around to raise them. We're seeing this play out right now. As women obtain more freedom and are less dependent on men for survival and outpace them, men feel threatened and less motivated/incentivized to do what society tells them they need to be doing (protecting and providing) and rates where women are either the breadwinner or single mothers go up to accompany it.
Man, don't bring the modern school dress code into this. I know teens like to rant about it online, but it's mainly for practice wearing office-appropriate outfits.
There is a fine line between office-appropriate outfits and actual policing of expression. 😊
I agree that there has to be a line somewhere. But there are definitely also cases where its just an older generations preferences of decency pressed onto a new one.
Alex, I found this article fascinating, and I am grateful that you took the time to craft it for us. I am curious about how you believe the practice of masturbation fits into the ideas that you describe. This is the first article of yours that I have read, so it's possible that you have addressed this previously or plan to do so in the future. If not, I would love for you to do so! 😊
Hi Therese!
Thanks for the question 😊 It touches on several key themes from the article - particularly the relationship between biological drives and conscious direction of sexual energy.
Masturbation represents a perfect example of how sexual energy can be channeled consciously rather than suppressively. Just as the article discusses the "Buddha Heart, Demon Hand" framework, self-pleasure can be approached either as mindless consumption or as intentional self-knowledge and release. When treated with awareness rather than shame, it becomes one of many tools for understanding and directing our sexual nature rather than being controlled by it.
This ties directly into the article's broader point about integration versus denial. Historical attempts to suppress masturbation through moral condemnation or pseudo-scientific warnings reflect the same flawed thinking that tried to control sexuality through external rules rather than internal wisdom. A more nuanced understanding recognizes that, like any expression of sexual energy, masturbation's impact depends largely on the consciousness bringing it into being.
I appreciate you raising this topic, as it's one that deserves to be discussed openly and intelligently rather than being relegated to either crude jokes or moral panic. It's exactly these kinds of honest conversations that help us develop healthier relationships with our sexual nature.
There is still a lot to explore here, so definitely thank you for putting my mind to it :)
Yes, that's exactly what I was thinking of when you referenced the conscious direction of sexual energy. In my own life as an unpartnered woman of 70, I find self-pleasure to be very liberating, and I experience it as both a kindness to myself and a sweet gift from God. Thank you for your thoughtful reply!
Wow! This is the best treatment of the difficult and (understandably) unpopular topic of male sexuality I have read in recent times. Thank you for bringing to consciousness the yin and yang of this topic.